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Old 25th December 2002, 00:19
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We cannot fix a system if we do not know how it work, and what causes it to
broke down. To prevent a marriage from ending in the divorce court, we must
know what broke up marriages and try to fix it before it happen. A mariner do
not knowingly put a boat with half broken propeller in the sea.

Amos 3:3-AV Can two walk together, except they be agreed?

The greatest mistakes of lovers, is thinking that they can change the other
person. We quickly forget that people resist change. When does a wolf ever
became sheep? In this article, we intended to show readers how to fix certain
marital pot hole, before getting married.


One of the first problem that a newly married couple is going to face is
money. When the love making is over, the couple will find out that there are
other things that is just as important. Some women came into the marriage
thinking that she will never need to work again,
or she can leave her job because she is now a wife. Some men think, my wife is
a Nurse and she is making big money, I do not need to ever work again, "I am
set for life, to blase with work" The couple will need to talk about the
family financial positions and each person expectation and responsibility,
before moving in with each other.


Sirach.42:13 For as moths come from garments, so harm to women comes from
"The New American Bible. Saint Joseph Edition"

The interferences of family and friends is another marriage killer. I have
found out that sometime family want to try out the other family spouses. They
call this "Take a taste" Whenever, they are ignored, they try to destroy that
marriage with malice, they never let up, and never stop seeking for
opportunity to bring that marriage to ruin. The newly couple can prevent this
from happening, if they talk about what role family and friends is going to
play in this new relationship. How we will deal with "Hear say" If you refused to discussed with each other the hear say of the day, and give each other a chance to give their side of
what happen. Your marriage will not lost two years. Even it lost that long,
it will always be in quick sand.


Sirach.42:13 For as moths come from garments, so harm to women comes from
women. "The New American Bible. Saint Joseph Edition"

There are people in this world that can tell you things about your father, and
cause you to hate him. A mind poisoner have a way of skillfully transmitted
his or her feelings of hate in such a way, that you also hated the person that
they are telling you about without even knowing what the person looks like.
For unknown reasons, women seem to fall prey to a mind poisoner more easily
than men.

To protect yourself from a poisoner, you have to ask yourself a series of
questioning. Why is he /she telling me all this? What does this have to do
with me? What are the other side of the story? What is he/she trying to
accomplishes here? Does the victims have a right to an hearing? Just suppose
this is a mistake?

The most dangerous mind poisoners are call "Mischief makers" They did things
for jokes, he did not hate his or her victims, nor even meant any harm. I over
heard one worker say" Things is too quiet around here, I need to start some
rumors, we need some excitement"

Romans 3:13-AV Their throat [is] an open sepulchre; with their
tongues they have used deceit; the poison of asps [is] under
their lips:

James 3:5-AV Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth
great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth!
James 3:6-AV And the tongue [is] a fire, a world of iniquity: so
is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body,
and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire
of hell.

James 3:7-AV For every kind of beasts, and of birds, and of
serpents, and of things in the sea, is tamed, and hath been tamed
of mankind:
James 3:8-AV But the tongue can no man tame; [it is] an unruly
evil, full of deadly poison.


Ecclesiastes 3:16-AV And moreover I saw under the sun the place
of judgment, [that] wickedness [was] there; and the place of
righteousness, [that] iniquity [was] there.
Ecclesiastes 3:17-AV I said in mine heart, God shall judge the
righteous and the wicked: for [there is] a time there for every
purpose and for every work.

If you drink down every thing you hear from church people, you will be soon

Proverbs 17:17-AV A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is
born for adversity.

Proverbs 18:24-AV A man [that hath] friends must shew himself
friendly: and there is a friend [that] sticketh closer than a

Women attitude changes accordingly to what they hear, the men saw the
attitude, and assumed that the woman have a man on the side.

The attack of family and friend upon a marriage will comes in three phases.
The first phase is when they came in siding with one member, but at the same
time they really came in to bring about a split, and not to unite the couple.
A man and his wife are one and whenever, a problem arises among them, they
should be treated as one. This is the most dangerous phase, because they came
in as friend. The second phase is when they came in as friend of both
partners. However, the encouragement that they give is intended to split them
up. The third and final phase is when they came in as enemy, they declare open
war upon both. This happen when the other two phase failed.


Gambling addicted, substance abuses, bad company. Some people cannot control
themselves any more, and is searching for a wife or an husband to dump
themselves off on. These habits ruin a marriage. Having a spouse with an
addicted gambling habit can be detrimental to the family financial status.
Some time the spouse is the one that broke into their own apartments. All the
family furniture end up in the pawn shop. And the money is use to pay gambling


Look a phobia: Many marriages have broken every year over "what you looking
at!" A lot of black men get into fights, and wounded the other person, because
they claimed that the person was looking a them, are looking at their spouses.
By the time he came back from twenty years
imprisonment, his wife already have two babies for other men. Did it worth it?
"To look is disrespect! How in God heaven are we going to stop people from
looking at us? The prison is full of black men here in USA. We blame it all on
the white people, but sometime, it is
our own taboos that open the door for us to get ourselves in trouble. The
couple must settle this look a phobia problem before getting marriage. If look
is going to be a problem, I cannot get
married to you, because I have to look. And sometime I am not even looking,
but Satan is going to make it looks like I am looking. A woman walked into the
church, having a good looking shape, big breasted and well dress, all the
married women, begin to look out of their sideway
vision to see if their husbands are looking, so what if the husbands look?
Service disrupted, home life disrupted. Looking at a woman does not mean that
the man want her. Sometime she is looking funny to him.


When starting a relationship, before the couple move in with each others, they
must decide who is in charge of the relationship. Who has the emergency power.
A man do not necessarily have to be in charge, especially if the woman is
educated and is earning more money. Nevertheless, he must be respected as a
man. The Bible command the woman to guide the house.

1Timothy 5:14-AV I will therefore that the younger women marry,
bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the
adversary to speak reproachfully.

Ephesians 5:23-AV For the husband is the head of the wife, even
as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the

While commanding the man to be the head of the wife. If a decision cannot be
reach, quickly, the man have the rights to say" Ok this is
how it must go" If this system is not set up, the family will get tied up in
power struggle, tug of war for a long time. If a woman has any objection to a
man being her head, the man that she is with is not the right man for her. Any
time she meet the man that is right for her she will surrender that attitude.


This is the easiest problem to solve in the marriage since it can be solve
with medication, and
good eating habit.


You will need to know people sexual preferences before moving in with them.
Men is not what they we use to be. Many marriages have been broken up due to
sexual preferences. The man was to sodomize the wife and the wife do not want
that. Some wives want the man to do oral sex on her, and the man do not want
that. All this problem can be solve before moving in with somebody. The
problem is, every body think that can change the other person over, little by
little. And that
never work. The person must declared their sexual preferences in the
premarital agreements.


When we went to apply for a job, we have to fill out a job application, and
take drug test, some jobs want medical records and background check. A job
want this. But people are ready to move in with people without doing a
background check up on them. Some men a child sex offender. Women just move
them into their houses, to live with them on the children. Then complained
that men are bad, while refusing to admit that she has made wrong choice, by
bringing a man into her
house with doing a background check on him. Some cannot get a job, because
they have police record long from here to Germany.


Ephesians 5:22-AV Wives, submit yourselves unto your own
husbands, as unto the Lord.
Ephesians 5:23-AV For the husband is the head of the wife, even
as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the

Ephesians 5:24-AV Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ,
so [let] the wives [be] to their own husbands in every thing.
Ephesians 5:25-AV Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also
loved the church, and gave himself for it;
Ephesians 5:28-AV So ought men to love their wives as their own
bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
Ephesians 5:29-AV For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but
nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
Ephesians 5:33-AV Nevertheless let every one of you in particular
so love his wife even as himself; and the wife [see] that she
reverence [her] husband.

1Timothy 5:14-AV I will therefore that the younger women marry,
bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the
adversary to speak reproachfully.
1Timothy 5:15-AV For some are already turned aside after Satan.

Matthew 7:12-AV Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men
should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and
the prophets.


“If 50 million people believe a wise thing to be foolish, it is still a wise thing” Beliefs does not change reality.

“If you have to walk away, leave the church, not the faith” Do not make Satan laugh.
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